Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Thursday, November 01, 2007
What do I seek from the someone whose gonna share her life with me...?????
Continuing with my last post and on my and on my interests, I had to sit back and think what would be the other person's interests. I tried my luck with some people whom I know are married and was astounded to find some of them had married just like that. Some of the reasons given are like they got married because they felt like getting married, they got married because of parental pressures, they got married because they fell in love etc.
Coming to love, am not a very firm believer of it may be because I fall in love atleast twice or thrice each day. Er........jsut kidding. I don't know if I chase some romance now. If at all I kind of fall in love I would marry straight away or rather within six minimum to maximum eight months from the day I fall in love. Long back I have seen my dad explain to his friend's son on how good a decently early marriage would help in life. Marry around 27 to 28 or worst 29(am 27 complete now) and start a family at the age of 30 and by the time you are 55 your first son or daughter would be able to be on their own without your help. How true it is? My dad married when he was 26 and had a kid(me) when he was 27. My mom would oft repeat these words like Prasanna, by your age your dad had a wife and a Child. I don't know why she oft mentions this but much of it has to do with my frequet travels. I am so immature enough to explain my mom the other things. To make a mistake you don't have to keep travelling you can do it in Chennai itself.
Coming back to what I seek most. The things that I seek most are trust, hope and affection. The same I can give. Irrespective of any other thing these three things keep a relationship going headstrong after years when physical attraction gets lost. When my mom married my dad he was a novice with not much of an earning and they had eloped and got married. Today there is one thing that keeps her relationship with her husband running and that is trust. She trusts man more than anything else and the man also does the same. I have wondered for years how beyond many kind of differences the relationship is still steady.
It would be always nice to have that tender touch of affection shown to you as and when possible. It is worth more than anything else in this world. The affection would mostly summarize itself as hope and trust on the other person.
Coming to what I expect....
Coming to love, am not a very firm believer of it may be because I fall in love atleast twice or thrice each day. Er........jsut kidding. I don't know if I chase some romance now. If at all I kind of fall in love I would marry straight away or rather within six minimum to maximum eight months from the day I fall in love. Long back I have seen my dad explain to his friend's son on how good a decently early marriage would help in life. Marry around 27 to 28 or worst 29(am 27 complete now) and start a family at the age of 30 and by the time you are 55 your first son or daughter would be able to be on their own without your help. How true it is? My dad married when he was 26 and had a kid(me) when he was 27. My mom would oft repeat these words like Prasanna, by your age your dad had a wife and a Child. I don't know why she oft mentions this but much of it has to do with my frequet travels. I am so immature enough to explain my mom the other things. To make a mistake you don't have to keep travelling you can do it in Chennai itself.
Coming back to what I seek most. The things that I seek most are trust, hope and affection. The same I can give. Irrespective of any other thing these three things keep a relationship going headstrong after years when physical attraction gets lost. When my mom married my dad he was a novice with not much of an earning and they had eloped and got married. Today there is one thing that keeps her relationship with her husband running and that is trust. She trusts man more than anything else and the man also does the same. I have wondered for years how beyond many kind of differences the relationship is still steady.
It would be always nice to have that tender touch of affection shown to you as and when possible. It is worth more than anything else in this world. The affection would mostly summarize itself as hope and trust on the other person.
Coming to what I expect....
- The first thing is the girl must be willing to adopt. I wanna adopt one child. This has been in my mind for long enough though I have not told many about this. I wanna adopt one child preferably a female and I would love to have two kids at home other than this adopted one. This will be the first and foremost thing that I owuld like to get cleared on.
- She should be an enthusiastic traveller. I like exploring new places especially hills. Walking down the hills on a rainy morning evening with your hands entwined is better than even heaven. Someone who likes to walk in hills. Given a chance I would prefer to spend year after year after year in hills than in a city.
- Someone who lets me smoke. I have always promised myself that I would quit the day before my marriage. But am not commited yet so lets forget the quitting part. Rather than lying it is better to be open too.
- I don't have much of a thought about how she is in real life. I can adjust with any type. But when it comes to difference of opinion I am not the talking part. I would run away from teh scene, switch on the music system and listen to loud music. I don't know why or it is the weird part of me but anytime am down, pepped up or about to travel loud blaring music helps me a lot. So loud music is a must atleast for me. If she is also a heavy metal listener then it would be a fantastic thing.
- Regarding attire, what is her choice is mine but I have an eerie disliking for Sarees.
Rest as I think but for now this is fine.
Sunday, October 21, 2007
For long time I was trying to post on these two things. More or less they were kind of formed inside my deep mind for sometime. It all started long back. Mom would often tell me she would start seeing a girl or some source would find one match possible and I would reject outright. Infact until now i have not seen a single girl with an eye on marriage. I don't know where the thought started. Last Feb / March may be when two of my younger cousins got married. Infact, in one such event my dad said there was someone who is looking for a guy and a relative asked if my dad is looking for me. Thank God, I avoided that marriage and my dad evaded possiblities. But I kind of felt mom as interested then. I have a profile in Tamil matrimony for a long time. Its been totally updated for about a year or more now and on and off I get some interest messages. Quite frankly liked one girl but never went beyond liking. Though a friend of mine did well to get me some insight on the girl later she got committted.
This particular incident and some other incidents are a culmination of this blog. I, Nirmal and Vittal went to Pondy couple of days before vittal got his first overseas assignment and it was a treat. Driving from chennai to pondy in the night was beautiful. Half an hour into the drive Vittal popped up the ultimate question that has for sometime haunted my mind. What kind of girl do you seek? Well, I evaded it saying I have not given a thought and with marriage also seemingly away in the near future I have not really thought. The second incident happened when I went to Bangalore to meet a prospective customer and I was free from around 9 30 and I called an old friend. We are three serious known through mutual friends n Chennai and the other two are seriously scouting for brides. In through the conversation i asked him how his search is going on and when I can expect a wedding feast from him. He was again evading and knowing very well he was going out steady with a girl I asked him what about his marrige for which he replied he is just waiting for his parents to find one and I was astounded and asked him what happ you were going steady with a girl right for which the reply was ya I was but we are not together these days, finally I came out to my car and we were smoking when he asked when are ye coming to Bangalore again machi? I said no plans but i wanna take a break may be will come sooner around May end or may be hit down north east with a kolkatta based friend. He asked me again if you come here I will introduce you to one girl and continued like you know her too and she is looking for a guy and tell me what kind of girl are you looking for???? The mention of the girl's name caught me unawares and I said I will think over. But the thought of meeting a girl whom I know for sometime for marriage was kind of confusing so I just moved on but it brought me back to some questions I am having now. What kind of girl am i searching for? Officially except some friends of mien nobody has asked me this questions. I don't know if my mom had ever popped up this question and I have doubts if she might also ask it too(Parents think always they do the best for their children) and for long I have been travelling enough in the recent days to think of this question. I don't know what am seeking but i have tried my best to answer myself this. WHY SHOULD I BE MARRIED? I frankly don't know. I really have no thought about it. But there are certain small small things that I have now.
This particular incident and some other incidents are a culmination of this blog. I, Nirmal and Vittal went to Pondy couple of days before vittal got his first overseas assignment and it was a treat. Driving from chennai to pondy in the night was beautiful. Half an hour into the drive Vittal popped up the ultimate question that has for sometime haunted my mind. What kind of girl do you seek? Well, I evaded it saying I have not given a thought and with marriage also seemingly away in the near future I have not really thought. The second incident happened when I went to Bangalore to meet a prospective customer and I was free from around 9 30 and I called an old friend. We are three serious known through mutual friends n Chennai and the other two are seriously scouting for brides. In through the conversation i asked him how his search is going on and when I can expect a wedding feast from him. He was again evading and knowing very well he was going out steady with a girl I asked him what about his marrige for which he replied he is just waiting for his parents to find one and I was astounded and asked him what happ you were going steady with a girl right for which the reply was ya I was but we are not together these days, finally I came out to my car and we were smoking when he asked when are ye coming to Bangalore again machi? I said no plans but i wanna take a break may be will come sooner around May end or may be hit down north east with a kolkatta based friend. He asked me again if you come here I will introduce you to one girl and continued like you know her too and she is looking for a guy and tell me what kind of girl are you looking for???? The mention of the girl's name caught me unawares and I said I will think over. But the thought of meeting a girl whom I know for sometime for marriage was kind of confusing so I just moved on but it brought me back to some questions I am having now. What kind of girl am i searching for? Officially except some friends of mien nobody has asked me this questions. I don't know if my mom had ever popped up this question and I have doubts if she might also ask it too(Parents think always they do the best for their children) and for long I have been travelling enough in the recent days to think of this question. I don't know what am seeking but i have tried my best to answer myself this. WHY SHOULD I BE MARRIED? I frankly don't know. I really have no thought about it. But there are certain small small things that I have now.
- The primary thing that am more serious about is am not gonna marry anyone from other than cities. So Chennai, Salem, Coimbatore, Madurai(am not much interested in this place though), Trichy and Salem only.
- Secondly I would be happy to have a wife who is atleast willing to play some role in my business life in the future. Not that am averse to her working but I would be happy to have my wife part of my business.
- Someone who knows the intricacies of business is better. Someone who should understand that I have a responsibility to feed some families on first day of the month before mine. Many a times my priority comes last.
Monday, October 15, 2007
Some Ideas some thoughts and some possibilities.
Before I go on to these plans or rather my ideas I would like to tell everyone who is gonna read these things that I am a kind of a non believer. I don't really believe that God in anyway is gonna help us get something. This makes a mockery of our sixth sense. This is the biggest belief that I have and I will have hopefully till the moment I breathe last.
When I look back I don't understand what brought me to the business. Though I would say certain events between my UG and PG along with some other external forces colluded in pushing me to business, I would personally rate the one month work that I did between my first and final year of PG that took me into business. July 2 2003 was my my first day in the final year of my college and it got over at 12:40 PM. I was in office by 14:15 hours because I had learnt to love it more than anything else in the whole world.
Born to a family of businessmen who were looking into various fields I do believe it was all the more natural I came here. Ok, this is not the time to write my history into business. But for a change I would love to have these thoughts that I wish to do in future when business shapes up well. I don't know how far I will succeed but in case any reader here gets an inspiration and performs well based on my ideas I would be all the more happy.
a) Transport Business:
If somebody had told me around 8 years back that I would be fascinated by long distance bus travel I would have mocked at them, shown faces or at worst ignored them. Bus never fascinated me then when it comes to long distances. I would prefer train as I felt safe in that than the buses though I preferred going around Chennai in bus than in train.
I vividly remember my first long distance bus travel which also coincided with my first official travel too. With one of my dad's then best men by name Chelladurai, we set out to Tuticorin on a rainy day from the SETC Bus Stand (then in Parrys Corner near High Court) at 9:30 Pm and reached Tuti by next day afternoon around 1 PM. Today I have travelled a lot in Bus and this 600 KM distance was just a beginning.
As I started travelling more by bus and road and trying newer routes and endeavours, I become fascinated by the travels business. For long my most favourite bus firm is Bharathi. Now I have added SRM to the list. I like SRM for its punctuality. I would love to start a bus travel too on these lines.
All my buses would be of volvo airconditioned only. These days I don't travel by anything other than volvo (unless until there is no other go like the secondary routes) and so all my buses would be volvo air conditioned only. All the a/c vents would work and the blankets that are given would be washed daily and will eb used only alternative days (they stink :O ) and I don't wanna trouble my customers with the stink. My drivers and cleaners won't have to stay on the bus (The Bharathi bus driver Pandi my dear friend has explained to me the deal - 15 days up and down and 15 days holiday) instead they will have a house with all amenities for them wherever they go alongwith food. Water Bottles will be provided compulsively (Only Parveen other than State Government buses give water bottles) and my buses will be daily screened for any kind of problems. Passengers cannot enter without giving their name, age, address, contact details and a photo identity card. The number must be land line only for requirements of emergency and it will not be the passenger's mobile number.
There will be two drivers in each bus that travels for more than 8 hours. One cleaner. The back seat of the bus will in any day (including special days) be reserved for the benefit of the second driver who can take rest or sleep. It will no way be sold to any passenger at all. This will be strictly implemented. There will be seat belts in each seat and also the driver and cleaner must wear seat belt. Any non adherence to this policy will mean them losing the job. Passengers must wear seat belt and I hope there is a system which makes the vehicle not start if seat belt is not worn.
I have made some mental calculations on these kind of transport business and hopefully I would be able to break in to transport business in a couple of years may be three at max. My first route would be Chennai to Tanjore via Kumbakonam or Chennai to Bangalore. As I become a frequent traveller some travel agents in these places have often tried to bait me into the transport business. They paint it all rosy but I know for running a route and to make it moderately popular I must be ready to run it in loss for alteast three months. This is known from the following incident. There is one bus between Chennai and Madurai by name PVK. I twice went through this bus but to my dismay I found that PVK doesn't play on all days and it is wayward. Suddenly it plies and suddenly it doesn't . I don't understand the need for running a bus and not running it some days.
Next is my tourism plan. This is something which I hold so close to my heart and though I have discussed a lot about this I don't want to go on telling everyone but I do believe this is the juncture I need some inspiration. So I will write about it in the next blog.
When I look back I don't understand what brought me to the business. Though I would say certain events between my UG and PG along with some other external forces colluded in pushing me to business, I would personally rate the one month work that I did between my first and final year of PG that took me into business. July 2 2003 was my my first day in the final year of my college and it got over at 12:40 PM. I was in office by 14:15 hours because I had learnt to love it more than anything else in the whole world.
Born to a family of businessmen who were looking into various fields I do believe it was all the more natural I came here. Ok, this is not the time to write my history into business. But for a change I would love to have these thoughts that I wish to do in future when business shapes up well. I don't know how far I will succeed but in case any reader here gets an inspiration and performs well based on my ideas I would be all the more happy.
a) Transport Business:
If somebody had told me around 8 years back that I would be fascinated by long distance bus travel I would have mocked at them, shown faces or at worst ignored them. Bus never fascinated me then when it comes to long distances. I would prefer train as I felt safe in that than the buses though I preferred going around Chennai in bus than in train.
I vividly remember my first long distance bus travel which also coincided with my first official travel too. With one of my dad's then best men by name Chelladurai, we set out to Tuticorin on a rainy day from the SETC Bus Stand (then in Parrys Corner near High Court) at 9:30 Pm and reached Tuti by next day afternoon around 1 PM. Today I have travelled a lot in Bus and this 600 KM distance was just a beginning.
As I started travelling more by bus and road and trying newer routes and endeavours, I become fascinated by the travels business. For long my most favourite bus firm is Bharathi. Now I have added SRM to the list. I like SRM for its punctuality. I would love to start a bus travel too on these lines.
All my buses would be of volvo airconditioned only. These days I don't travel by anything other than volvo (unless until there is no other go like the secondary routes) and so all my buses would be volvo air conditioned only. All the a/c vents would work and the blankets that are given would be washed daily and will eb used only alternative days (they stink :O ) and I don't wanna trouble my customers with the stink. My drivers and cleaners won't have to stay on the bus (The Bharathi bus driver Pandi my dear friend has explained to me the deal - 15 days up and down and 15 days holiday) instead they will have a house with all amenities for them wherever they go alongwith food. Water Bottles will be provided compulsively (Only Parveen other than State Government buses give water bottles) and my buses will be daily screened for any kind of problems. Passengers cannot enter without giving their name, age, address, contact details and a photo identity card. The number must be land line only for requirements of emergency and it will not be the passenger's mobile number.
There will be two drivers in each bus that travels for more than 8 hours. One cleaner. The back seat of the bus will in any day (including special days) be reserved for the benefit of the second driver who can take rest or sleep. It will no way be sold to any passenger at all. This will be strictly implemented. There will be seat belts in each seat and also the driver and cleaner must wear seat belt. Any non adherence to this policy will mean them losing the job. Passengers must wear seat belt and I hope there is a system which makes the vehicle not start if seat belt is not worn.
I have made some mental calculations on these kind of transport business and hopefully I would be able to break in to transport business in a couple of years may be three at max. My first route would be Chennai to Tanjore via Kumbakonam or Chennai to Bangalore. As I become a frequent traveller some travel agents in these places have often tried to bait me into the transport business. They paint it all rosy but I know for running a route and to make it moderately popular I must be ready to run it in loss for alteast three months. This is known from the following incident. There is one bus between Chennai and Madurai by name PVK. I twice went through this bus but to my dismay I found that PVK doesn't play on all days and it is wayward. Suddenly it plies and suddenly it doesn't . I don't understand the need for running a bus and not running it some days.
Next is my tourism plan. This is something which I hold so close to my heart and though I have discussed a lot about this I don't want to go on telling everyone but I do believe this is the juncture I need some inspiration. So I will write about it in the next blog.
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
Confused thoughts...........
C O N F U S E D ThOuGhTs
This is something that is hurting me ever since I saw.
It was one of those long long long runs between two cities on a continuous spree that kept me away from touch with my friends. I was invariably travelling between Madurai and Chennai on a regular basis from around August 2 till September 25. It was mainly due to delay after delay after delays in my work. Used to performing work fairly at ease this order could be termed as my most delayed work and also the most pathetic. I had no complaints when dad took me for a ride in Madurai. This work is the most sloppiest piece of my work ever and I believe I should change my style of functioning or I need a break......it is more than three years now without a holiday. Break can wait......
I came back to Chennai and slowly got in touch with three of my friends with whom I go out on sundays to ECR. I don't remember the last time I went to ECR. With one guy married and the other guy committed these trips to ECR are becoming far and few now. Though I do love driving around alone its not easy to get car from dad and I believe its time I get one on my own but er......should I not have some regular business on my own before I think of my own car? I don't wanna call my dad's businesses my own. So no car too for now. It was 30th September 2007 when this happened. The day before the great Tamilnadu bandh. Er........no fast er.........
Sunday morning was very boring. Dad was away somewhere in Gujarat to meet his mentor and I was whiling the day away and was really bored when I decided to call Nirmal and check if he is free. For your info I, Nirmal, Siva and Vittal(don't knwo his official name - a Nirmal's rich relative) were the gang members who would goto ECR. Usually this trip is our sojourn for the guys to have their share of beer and my share of driving. Now that Siva is married we are one member short and after Vittal went to Singapore for his project we are two members short and Nirmal's trip to Chennai become few too. So ECR is off my list for long. Luckily for me on September 30 I could get Nirmal and he cajoled me to accept a trip to ECR (Hehehehe I was tired after a long listless job in Madurai so I wanna sleep and it worked) and added to the list was Nirmal's new Verna. One more car to the lsit of what I want to own. I don't like Verna and am not a great fan of Hyundai but it looks better in the list.
Nirmal picked me up near my home and we travelled through Velachery byepass which is my second most favourite road after Besant Nagar beach in Chennai. I was cruising through and Verna was responding well when I stopped for the signal near Gurunanak college.
There was a corpse being taken towards the burial ground for the final rites. Usually, these corpses interest me like any other individual and I used to eb very happy when I usually see an old human pass away. Death is usually a heart rendering moment in any person's life, but dying old usually is not bad according to me. Then I saw the guy in front. Guy er..........a very young boy aorund 8 to 10 years of age walking at a brisk pace. He was literally running at a moderate pace and I tehn saw the face of the dead body. A rather early middle aged man around 35 years of age.
I was rather apalled to see the scene. The guy was no more than 10 years old and it is harsh on him to be in such a situation. I don't believe it was some sort of relief that made him go fast may be the urge to do the final rites before the ground is closed or the urge to get the moment over as soon as possible. But one question that I am hounded is why this small boy? What wrong did this boy do to have such a situation so early in his life? What is to happen to his family, mom, siblings if any and others?
I don't know personally how it is to lose the bread earner of the family at such a tender age. There are two instances when I came close to. Once when dad had an heart attack around 15 years before (he was 38 or 39 then) and in 1993 during the Bombay Bomb Blast. My dad had vacated the Centaur hotel room adn moved towards airport just around 10 minutes before there was a blast. So near....
I am now 27. There is one demise that has me shattered even today. The death of my uncle by name M Krishnananda. The person whom I love most outside my family i.e my parents and brother. He started as my dad's driver around in the year 1990. He was with us till the day he passed away on February 24 2007. A man who put my family before his family, a man whose birthday fell the day before my mom's (which I never knew until he passed away sadly) and the man who spent most problaby more time with us than with his wife or his only child. He was my companion to and from school from Nanganallur to Adyar. He was that relative who would somehow let me go in if I go late to school. He was that brother with whom I have discussed everything including my high school crushes. He was that soundboard with whom I discussed everythign about business which I didn't do with even my mom. He was for long everything to me. A man who had somehow moulded me from a small boy to a man. His part in my life is something which I can't and I won't ever be able to pen.
He had a late marriage and his child is just 12 now.
I don't know why God does terrible things. Krishna uncle was nowhere near dying age but now he is no more. I know well he had heart problems but he never told us about the seriousness of it and so we never knew that he required an open heart surgeory or the same was advised by our family doctor. How naive of me that umpteen number of times after he met our doc and I didn't bother to ask him or aunty about Krisha uncle's health.
I miss alot of things with Krishna uncle. Most of it is the lunch we have. Me, mom and him during the afternoons as the office nowadays functions next door to my home. I miss going around with him. We both shared a passion to go logn distances on road and he was my mentor when it comes to cars. We both shared a passion for cars especially four wheel drives and umpteen hours were spent discussing with him about cars cars cars. It would be even great when my dad was around and invariably our minds would start hovering around cars.
Even today I meet his family atleast once or twice in a month. Each time I go there irrespective of what I speak with his son or his wife there is only one feeling that comes back to me. Its true they don't question me, it is true they don't blame me but I don't know why but I can never face their eyes. Did I wrong a man and his family????
Coming back to what I saw, I was horrified by what I saw. A young boy walking hard to light the funeral pyre of his dad. A boy who would be very mature by the time its all over beyond his age. I don't know why certain events in life are cruel to certain people. I don't know why it can never be all nice thigns for these young chaps atleast when they grow up to become men. For a guy his dad is more essential when he forms himself as a man. If not for my dad being there with me questioning and discussing with me things that are all the moer taboo in many families (he had talked with me sex and AIDS and all nonsense) I would not be able to have a diversified thinking on everything. I know how invaluable its to have the dad beside you when you are in teens. Good or bad most of dad's actions would help you become a man at that age.
I was heavy at heart and really lost the passion to go to beach and enjoy after this particular incident. I lit a cigarette and pushed the car aimlessly. My mind was lost somewhere and I was really driving crazyly when Nirmal brought me back to my senses and asked what the hell had happened man???? I came back to senses and we both spent a lot of silent time in Silver sands that day. Then some time in some desolate beach part and a silent drive back near home.
At the end of the day I could only thing If at all God exists why is he so cruel?????????
Ah yes forgot to write Verna is good. Worth owning it.
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
Those songs that live in mind.......and the masses......
Those songs that live in mind......and the masses..........
For long I wanted to write about this. In my travels I have come across some of thsoe so called gaana songs in Tamil that are part and parcel of those people who travel often by bus. I was really so scared of travelling by bus for a long time especially in the night before steady and continuous travels by bus not only destroyed the fear (after all life is more hope) and infact made me go closer to road travel than the trains.
Many times I go by bus from Chennai to down south. Buses are always different and except for my travels from Chennai to Kumbakonam and Chennai to Hyderabad vice versa I have never known to have travelled with the same crew.
I really started looking into the lives of these bus drivers and conductors only after I started going from Chennai to Hyderabad. One of the driver is named Pandi and he hails from Southern Tamilnadu. He drives a volvo bus and I become his very close friend because of my regular travel to Hyd. This bus is less incident or event free because both ways these people don't stop anywhere for food in the middle. But to cover 650+ Kms by road in 9 hours is more than awesome. But I love the way that bus is driven. Once beyond Ongole the bus easily hits 100 and stays there. Easily the Bharathi Volvo until this date my most favourite bus. Not to forget their obsession like mine with Mahesh Babu and his movies especially Pokiri (thanks to them I have seen this movie more than 20 times now) and Athadu (8 to 10 times).
Now to what I observe. Any traveller who travels in Tamilnadu by bus would be treated to what I see. This is one of those ways a person can understand there exists a life out there that is lived by certain masses. Usually buses from Chennai tend to stop in places for a cup of tea or tiffin or food in the dead of the night. Most of these places aer so unfit to eat as such so usually I tend to get down and just roam a bit here, have a cigarette and may be a cup of tea and there and proceed for the journey again. But what I really love the most in these places is those gaana songs. Some songs that I really remember for years now goes like this........
Andha Kavidha va thaan naa bus la paathen ava paakama poitaaaaaaaaa.........
Naanga rendu perum sendhu pesave illa..........
I don't remember the song much and I don't really believe I have heard the song on the whole and I know well its a crude remix of the Andha nilava thaan naan kaiyile pudichen song from one tamil movie. But more than that old song this song is the one which I hum most often. Other songs which are hummed by me and my favourites tehse days go like this
Eh payya kudigaara
saarayatha kudikadhada
saarayatha kudichiputu kudalu vendhu saagadhada
Eh payya kudigaara
kudalu vendhu saagadhada
saarayatha kudichiipotu pondaati pullaya adikadhada...
Eh payya kudigaara....
2nd one...
Adyaru beach oram kaathiruka meena meena poraley veenaaaaaaaaa
Meenaaaaaa odiyaaaaaaaa meenaaaaaaaaaa
3rd One...
Ettu mannara duty aam ketta anniku OT aam summa vaadi poo suthuraan
unpulla paadhi neram beach la dhaan kadala poduraan.....
The above song though I don't remember much nowadays would takl about the poor man's love and how Marina beach has become the poor man's haunted place for some relaxation and fun. Also how many families get to have their purses emptied of paltry salaries there.
These songs many times are never out to public much. They are listened and followed by the lower strata of society. Casettes come up at cheap rates and many of these songs would be out of choice for me if am listening while I drive by car or sit alone at home and enjoy some music. The music too which is in most cases virtually non existant would bore me and make me switch it off if am listening anywhere else.
But I have seen these songs add some glamour to the poor man's joy. For many out there these low priced casettes and songs with tea, beedi and some bajji etc are a way of having a relaxation. Many people tend to come to these kind of shops are from lower strata and the music soothes them and the surroundings bring them some peace. The voices aer vibrant and makes you feel like dancing or atleast shake the heads at that moment bringing in momentous passion.
I don't really know who sings these songs and where these casettes aer made but these unsung entertainers aer those unknown heroes out there who makes an average man's average day very colourful at the night. They deserve more credit on what they create with such limited resources and how they cheer up the mass who are off late losing their ability to see a good movie or go out with the family for a picnic.
Its gonna be another day and another shop and another song tonight...........but until I stop living these voices would cheer me up whenever I embark on that another journey alone..........
For long I wanted to write about this. In my travels I have come across some of thsoe so called gaana songs in Tamil that are part and parcel of those people who travel often by bus. I was really so scared of travelling by bus for a long time especially in the night before steady and continuous travels by bus not only destroyed the fear (after all life is more hope) and infact made me go closer to road travel than the trains.
Many times I go by bus from Chennai to down south. Buses are always different and except for my travels from Chennai to Kumbakonam and Chennai to Hyderabad vice versa I have never known to have travelled with the same crew.
I really started looking into the lives of these bus drivers and conductors only after I started going from Chennai to Hyderabad. One of the driver is named Pandi and he hails from Southern Tamilnadu. He drives a volvo bus and I become his very close friend because of my regular travel to Hyd. This bus is less incident or event free because both ways these people don't stop anywhere for food in the middle. But to cover 650+ Kms by road in 9 hours is more than awesome. But I love the way that bus is driven. Once beyond Ongole the bus easily hits 100 and stays there. Easily the Bharathi Volvo until this date my most favourite bus. Not to forget their obsession like mine with Mahesh Babu and his movies especially Pokiri (thanks to them I have seen this movie more than 20 times now) and Athadu (8 to 10 times).
Now to what I observe. Any traveller who travels in Tamilnadu by bus would be treated to what I see. This is one of those ways a person can understand there exists a life out there that is lived by certain masses. Usually buses from Chennai tend to stop in places for a cup of tea or tiffin or food in the dead of the night. Most of these places aer so unfit to eat as such so usually I tend to get down and just roam a bit here, have a cigarette and may be a cup of tea and there and proceed for the journey again. But what I really love the most in these places is those gaana songs. Some songs that I really remember for years now goes like this........
Andha Kavidha va thaan naa bus la paathen ava paakama poitaaaaaaaaa.........
Naanga rendu perum sendhu pesave illa..........
I don't remember the song much and I don't really believe I have heard the song on the whole and I know well its a crude remix of the Andha nilava thaan naan kaiyile pudichen song from one tamil movie. But more than that old song this song is the one which I hum most often. Other songs which are hummed by me and my favourites tehse days go like this
Eh payya kudigaara
saarayatha kudikadhada
saarayatha kudichiputu kudalu vendhu saagadhada
Eh payya kudigaara
kudalu vendhu saagadhada
saarayatha kudichiipotu pondaati pullaya adikadhada...
Eh payya kudigaara....
2nd one...
Adyaru beach oram kaathiruka meena meena poraley veenaaaaaaaaa
Meenaaaaaa odiyaaaaaaaa meenaaaaaaaaaa
3rd One...
Ettu mannara duty aam ketta anniku OT aam summa vaadi poo suthuraan
unpulla paadhi neram beach la dhaan kadala poduraan.....
The above song though I don't remember much nowadays would takl about the poor man's love and how Marina beach has become the poor man's haunted place for some relaxation and fun. Also how many families get to have their purses emptied of paltry salaries there.
These songs many times are never out to public much. They are listened and followed by the lower strata of society. Casettes come up at cheap rates and many of these songs would be out of choice for me if am listening while I drive by car or sit alone at home and enjoy some music. The music too which is in most cases virtually non existant would bore me and make me switch it off if am listening anywhere else.
But I have seen these songs add some glamour to the poor man's joy. For many out there these low priced casettes and songs with tea, beedi and some bajji etc are a way of having a relaxation. Many people tend to come to these kind of shops are from lower strata and the music soothes them and the surroundings bring them some peace. The voices aer vibrant and makes you feel like dancing or atleast shake the heads at that moment bringing in momentous passion.
I don't really know who sings these songs and where these casettes aer made but these unsung entertainers aer those unknown heroes out there who makes an average man's average day very colourful at the night. They deserve more credit on what they create with such limited resources and how they cheer up the mass who are off late losing their ability to see a good movie or go out with the family for a picnic.
Its gonna be another day and another shop and another song tonight...........but until I stop living these voices would cheer me up whenever I embark on that another journey alone..........
Friday, May 18, 2007
A deep insight into some distant thoughts.....
For long time I was trying to post on these two things. More or less they were kind of formed inside my deep mind for sometime.
It all started long back. Mom would often tell me she would start seeing a girl or some source would find one match possible and I would reject outright. Infact until now i have not seen a single girl with an eye on marriage. I don't know where the thought started. Last Feb / March may be when two of my younger cousins got married. Infact, in one such event my dad said there was someone who is looking for a guy and a relative asked if my dad is looking for me. Thank God, I avoided that marriage and my dad evaded possiblities. But I kind of felt mom as interested then.
I have a profile in Tamil matrimony for a long time. Its been totally updated for about a year or more now and on and off I get some interest messages. Quite frankly liked one girl but never went beyond liking. Though a friend of mine did well to get me some insight on the girl later she got committted.
This particular incident and some other incidents are a culmination of this blog.
I, Nirmal and Vittal went to Pondy couple of days before vittal got his first overseas assignment and it was a treat. Driving from chennai to pondy in the night was beautiful. Half an hour into the drive Vittal popped up the ultimate question that has for sometime haunted my mind. What kind of girl do you seek? Well, I evaded it saying I have not given a thought and with marriage also seemingly away in the near future I have not really thought.
The second incident happened when I went to Bangalore to meet a prospective customer and I was free from around 9 30 and I called an old friend. We are three serious known through mutual friends n Chennai and the other two are seriously scouting for brides. In through the conversation i asked him how his search is going on and when I can expect a wedding feast from him. He was again evading and knowing very well he was going out steady with a girl I asked him what about his marrige for which he replied he is just waiting for his parents to find one and I was astounded and asked him what happ you were going steady with a girl right for which the reply was ya I was but we are not together these days, finally I came out to my car and we were smoking when he asked when are ye coming to Bangalore again machi? I said no plans but i wanna take a break may be will come sooner around May end or may be hit down north east with a kolkatta based friend. He asked me again if you come here I will introduce you to one girl and continued like you know her too and she is looking for a guy and tell me what kind of girl are you looking for???? The mention of the girl's name caught me unawares and I said I will think over. But the thought of meeting a girl whom I know for sometime for marriage was kind of confusing so I just moved on but it brought me back to some questions I am having now.
What kind of girl am i searching for? Officially except some friends of mien nobody has asked me this questions. I don't know if my mom had ever popped up this question and I have doubts if she might also ask it too(Parents think always they do the best for their children) and for long I have been travelling enough in the recent days to think of this question. I don't know what am seeking but i have tried my best to answer myself this.
WHY SHOULD I BE MARRIED?
I frankly don't know. I really have no thought about it. But there are certain small small things that I have now.
It all started long back. Mom would often tell me she would start seeing a girl or some source would find one match possible and I would reject outright. Infact until now i have not seen a single girl with an eye on marriage. I don't know where the thought started. Last Feb / March may be when two of my younger cousins got married. Infact, in one such event my dad said there was someone who is looking for a guy and a relative asked if my dad is looking for me. Thank God, I avoided that marriage and my dad evaded possiblities. But I kind of felt mom as interested then.
I have a profile in Tamil matrimony for a long time. Its been totally updated for about a year or more now and on and off I get some interest messages. Quite frankly liked one girl but never went beyond liking. Though a friend of mine did well to get me some insight on the girl later she got committted.
This particular incident and some other incidents are a culmination of this blog.
I, Nirmal and Vittal went to Pondy couple of days before vittal got his first overseas assignment and it was a treat. Driving from chennai to pondy in the night was beautiful. Half an hour into the drive Vittal popped up the ultimate question that has for sometime haunted my mind. What kind of girl do you seek? Well, I evaded it saying I have not given a thought and with marriage also seemingly away in the near future I have not really thought.
The second incident happened when I went to Bangalore to meet a prospective customer and I was free from around 9 30 and I called an old friend. We are three serious known through mutual friends n Chennai and the other two are seriously scouting for brides. In through the conversation i asked him how his search is going on and when I can expect a wedding feast from him. He was again evading and knowing very well he was going out steady with a girl I asked him what about his marrige for which he replied he is just waiting for his parents to find one and I was astounded and asked him what happ you were going steady with a girl right for which the reply was ya I was but we are not together these days, finally I came out to my car and we were smoking when he asked when are ye coming to Bangalore again machi? I said no plans but i wanna take a break may be will come sooner around May end or may be hit down north east with a kolkatta based friend. He asked me again if you come here I will introduce you to one girl and continued like you know her too and she is looking for a guy and tell me what kind of girl are you looking for???? The mention of the girl's name caught me unawares and I said I will think over. But the thought of meeting a girl whom I know for sometime for marriage was kind of confusing so I just moved on but it brought me back to some questions I am having now.
What kind of girl am i searching for? Officially except some friends of mien nobody has asked me this questions. I don't know if my mom had ever popped up this question and I have doubts if she might also ask it too(Parents think always they do the best for their children) and for long I have been travelling enough in the recent days to think of this question. I don't know what am seeking but i have tried my best to answer myself this.
WHY SHOULD I BE MARRIED?
I frankly don't know. I really have no thought about it. But there are certain small small things that I have now.
- The primary thing that am more serious about is am not gonna marry anyone from other than cities. So Chennai, Salem, Coimbatore, Madurai(am not much interested in this place though), Trichy and Salem only.
- Secondly I would be happy to have a wife who is atleast willing to play some role in my business life in the future. Not that am averse to her working but I would be happy to have my wife part of my business.
- Someone who knows the intricacies of business is better. Someone who should understand that I have a responsibility to feed some families on first day of the month before mine. Many a times my priority comes last.
- She should be ready to adopt. I wanna adopt one kid. This is the main condition and there will be no change on this and am much particular about the ADOPTION.
These are the things that come to my mind as of now. I have lot of thoughts but they are not correlated to put forth in blog now. But something to start with.....
(Contd....)
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